No, You Aren’t The Only Common Denominator In All Of Your “Failed” Relationships

Build a stronger, more connected relationship with Paired for 25% off a yearly plan plus a 7-day free trial: http://paired.com/drscott25 #pairedapp @pairedapp “The common denominator in all my failed relationships is me… so I must be the problem.” It sounds logical. It’s also massively biased. In this video, I break down why that conclusion doesn’t hold up, the two other common denominators you’re ignoring (hint: people and a broken world), and the missing data point that changes everything: you don’t actually know your “relationship success rate” compared to anyone else—because you only see your failures, not theirs. I talk about: - why hurt is inevitable in real relationships - why repair is the real definition of “safe” - how confirmation bias and minimization distort your self-image - why a relationship ending ≠ a relationship “failing” - the “home runs vs at-bats” analogy that makes this click fast If you’ve been using relationships as evidence that you’re unlovable or broken—this is a necessary reset. If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper https://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYT Next Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychology Mental Health Coaching with me: https://bit.ly/DrScottWebYT Therapy with me (for people in Iowa) https://bit.ly/DrScottNorthYT About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Resources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. https://bit.ly/DrScottSleepYT 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Thanks for your support: 🤝 Join this channel to get access to perks: https://bit.ly/DrScottJoinYT Subscribe to The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety Podcast: Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/DrScottAppPodYT Spotify: https://bit.ly/DrScottPodYT Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.