In Episode 3 of my trying to conceive journey, I’m sharing the part that felt like the “okay… now it’s real” moment: after 12 cycles with zero pregnancies, we officially entered the infertility category and started doing more testing. I walk you through the fertility workup I did (ultrasounds, bloodwork, and an HSG to check if my tubes were open), plus my husband’s semen analysis—which genuinely surprised us. I also talk about the emotional whiplash of hearing “everything looks fine” while still not getting pregnant, and how “unexplained infertility” can feel less like an answer and more like being undiagnosed. I’m also very honest about the money side—because it’s a lot. We used what we had saved as our “baby fund” for testing, and it forced me to confront how unfair it feels that so many couples conceive for free while others pay thousands just for a chance. I share what the HSG was like for me (uncomfortable but not painful), what we changed for my husband (vitamins like CoQ10, lifestyle tweaks), and why we decided to try one IUI. I explain my experience on letrozole, the trigger shot, the procedure itself, and why I ultimately regret doing IUI—plus the bigger conversation about IVF being pushed, and learning that two things can be true: I can deeply want a baby and still not want IVF.