In this video, I practice one of my favorite toddler communication strategies: positive phrasing. When we communicate with toddlers, our goals are to set boundaries (freedom within limits), express thoughts and feelings clearly, promote closeness, and learn about each other. Because the 0–6 child has an absorbent mind, they’re taking in everything about their world—and they’re especially hungry for clear information about what they CAN do. I walk you through common “negative commands” and show how to flip them into respectful, usable directions. Instead of “Don’t run in the street,” I might say, “Hold my hand and we’ll look both ways,” or “Let’s stay on the sidewalk where it’s safer.” Instead of “Don’t throw your food,” I teach the child exactly where it goes when they’re finished (like the compost bucket), and if it continues I’ll calmly say, “It looks like you’re no longer eating. It’s time to clear your spot.” We also practice alternatives for “don’t yell inside,” “we don’t sit on books,” and “don’t run inside,” using clear choices like “You may walk, you may march, or you may tiptoe.” Positive phrasing takes practice, but it helps children learn expectations while keeping their dignity intact.