In this Girl Chat & Treat, I’m doing my deep conditioning while we talk real life—because that’s honestly my favorite kind of self-care: hair care and heart check at the same time. For the “treat” part, I’m using Eden BodyWorks (you already know I stand by Eden). I go in with two deep conditioners because my hair needs both: the Strengthen Deep Conditioner for strength, and the Anti-Breakage Deep Conditioner for, well…breakage. And I also spray their Peppermint Tea Tree Oil on my roots because I deal with dry scalp/dandruff, and tea tree is antibacterial and antifungal—so it gives me that extra tingly help. Then we get into my 3 biggest life lessons in my mid-30s. First: make God the head of your life—stay tapped in, consistent, and let Him guide you (I share a couple verses that really spoke to me). Second: be selfish (in a healthy way) so you don’t lose yourself pouring into everybody else—sometimes you need to recharge, set boundaries, and take your solo time. Third: have gratitude and learn your wants versus your needs, because emotional spending and “going looking” will have you buying stuff you don’t even need. Bonus lesson: when someone shows you who they are, believe them—stop giving unlimited grace to people who don’t respect you.