My wife and I try to sit down at least once a week, every week, and have what we call a Marriage Meeting: tea or coffee, notebooks open, pens in hand, and a real conversation that’s not just chores and checklists. In this video I walk through why we started doing it—because we were starting to feel like roommates, side by side but not actually together—and how this simple analog ritual became a quiet anchor in our weeks. It’s not about “fixing” each other. It’s about slowing down, tuning in, and remembering we’re on the same team, building our lives together. I share our real-life agenda, including the manifesto we read at the start, our rules of engagement (3-minute timer per topic, I-statements, seek understanding not convincing, and always end with affection), and the sections we cover: appreciations, an “us” check-in (including what made us feel loved or hurt), to-dos for the week/month, budget conversations, a parenting check-in, and the social calendar. We close with a powerful question—“If you were to die suddenly, I wish I would have said…”—because it recenters everything on what actually matters. And yes, I explain why we choose pen and paper: analog helps us listen, look at each other, and hold space in a way screens don’t.