Narcissism has been one of the most common “phases” I’ve been stuck on lately, because so many people are dealing with narcissistic personalities at home, at work, and even online. In this video, I review Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson and break down what I actually learned, how to apply it, and what I honestly think about the book. One of the first things I want you to understand is this: you can’t “fix” a narcissistic person. The book explains narcissistic personality disorder as a long-term pattern of exaggerated self-importance, craving admiration, and struggling with empathy—and it’s not something you treat with medication like that. I also explain Erikson’s DISC framework (the red, yellow, green, blue types) and how narcissistic people target different personalities in different ways. Reds get provoked so their reaction can be used against them, yellows get exploited through fear of rejection and constant need for approval, and greens get pushed because they hate conflict and just want peace. I talk about how prolonged exposure can lead to anxiety, depression, and diminished self-esteem—and why self-care isn’t just face masks, it’s boundaries, saying no, walking away, and growing a tough skin. I rated this book five stars because it helps you recognize patterns early, understand your own personality, and stay aware before you get pulled into the chaos.