This video started because I got triggered (I’m not even going to lie). A man told me “women nowadays think they control everything” and implied women “ask for too much” in relationships—and I just thought: women are finally finding their voices and now it’s a problem? For so long, women have been conditioned to shrink themselves, act “stupid” to be seen as feminine, and accept less while being told to be quiet. I’m not trying to get too political, but I wanted to share books that soften you back into yourself—so when you hear nonsense like that, you know it’s not the right way anyone should speak about you or women. I recommend four books that help you build bold confidence from the inside out: “What a Time to Be Alone” (Chidera Eggerue) for self-worth and boundaries, “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” for rebuilding self-esteem and stopping the habit of making yourself more “digestible,” “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty” (Florence Given) for unlearning the “I’m not like other girls” mindset and refusing to shame women to please men, and “The Big Audacious Life” (KES Kenny) for embracing your real self without hiding because you’re scared of being called “extra.” My core takeaway: you do not owe anybody pretty—whichever state you show up in will always be enough.