After 17 years living in France (I moved from the US to Dijon in 2008), I’m sharing four hard truths that I wish more people understood before they pack up and move. These aren’t meant to scare you off—I’m still here—but they will absolutely affect your day-to-day life and how “successful” your transition feels. If you come in with realistic expectations, you’ll be so much better prepared. First, you really do need a solid level of French if you want to integrate and handle real life here—appointments, paperwork, neighbors, work, and all the little things that don’t show up on Instagram. Second, French salaries can be shockingly low compared to what many Americans (and others) are used to, so you have to plan your budget carefully and understand what you’re trading off. Third, your past credentials and accomplishments often don’t carry the same weight in France, and that can be a big identity hit if you’re not ready for it. And finally, daily life in France isn’t a constant movie-scene lifestyle—it’s mostly just…regular life, with the bonus of excellent pastries. Knowing these truths upfront can make the difference between disappointment and a move you can actually build a life around.