a husband is not a life plan

🎀 freelance newsletter: https://shefreelances.kit.com/youtube 🎀 beginner freelance masterclass: https://youtu.be/RZnnvwnrEYs?si=grp8C70D_LDETAM2 listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/69ax0VAk10AMjB0Et6jmx4 listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pretty-philosophical/id1818658785 🎀 let’s stay connected 🎀 she freelances instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shefreelances/ personal instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deneetamia/ linkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/denee-seaton/ tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@deneetamia there's a version of your life that's so much richer, fuller, and deeper than what you're currently living and the reason you haven't found it yet is because you keep looking for it in other people. in this video, I'm talking about what it actually costs you when you outsource your joy, decisions, and the weight of your own life to someone else. we're going into the dependency loop that no one really talks about, why the hard things are actually the point, and how to build a life that feels like yours topics covered: - why outsourcing your joy feels like relief but actually makes things worse - the dependency loop and what it does to your relationships long-term - why hard things are the point (not the problem) - how to build a life that can hold you through the hard seasons - the nuance between wanting love and community vs. using it as an escape route - hey, i’m denée 🎀 i talk about life design, the underlying architecture of how your life actually gets shaped. your reality is built from your beliefs, the ones you inherited without questioning, the patterns you repeat, and the version of yourself you reinforce through your daily actions. everything i share comes from that lens. how you think, how you see yourself, what you tolerate, and what it actually takes to change. creative strategy and freelancing are a big part of my world because they gave me the freedom to explore all of this in real time. i’ve never worked a corporate job. after graduating, i scaled my freelance business to six figures in 18 months, paid off my student debt with freelance income, and built she freelances™, where i help women do the same. on this channel, i break down creative strategy, freelancing, building a freelance business, getting freelance clients, and turning your skills into income in the current economy. i also talk about why specialised knowledge, creative strategy, and freelancing are becoming the future of work. at the core, this is about becoming someone who can design their life and get paid for it. love you, mean it 🎀 - 🎀 in this video 🎀 [0:00] intro [0:45] my post-grad plans [3:00] how i built a six-figure business instead [5:22] femininity and adulthood [7:05] the dependency loop [9:00] hard things are the point [11:00] what a privilege [12:00] i still love love