Tam Fam, this one is a STORYTIME. I’m taking y’all back to the time I really thought I met my soulmate… and I almost married him. I’m walking you through how we met, how it escalated so fast, and the exact moment my spirit started side-eyeing the situation. Because listen—when you’re living abroad, dating can feel like a movie, but you still have to read the fine print. The big takeaway is that chemistry is not character, and “potential” is not a plan. I talk about what I ignored in the beginning, what finally made me pause, and why I’m grateful I didn’t force a forever out of something that wasn’t solid. If you’re Black plus-size and abroad (or just dating in general), I want you to hear me: keep your standards, keep your receipts, and don’t let the fantasy override the facts.