Breaking the Self-Abandonment Cycle | Build Secure Connections

Try EveryPlate for just $2.99/meal on your first box, plus get free steak for a month at https://bit.ly/4jD8Bq1 with code KATIMSTK26. Offer varies by plan, one free 10 oz serving per box for 4 weeks with active subscription. Thank you to EveryPlate for sponsoring this video! #everyplatepartner Ever wondered how to prioritize your own needs without sacrificing your connections? This video explains why our natural inclination to put others first often stems from emotional responses, not logic. We explore how to effectively implement "setting boundaries" and "identify needs" to foster "healthy relationships." Learning to practice "self care" and cultivating "emotional intelligence" are key to finding that balance. 0:00 - Intro: Why we abandon ourselves (people-pleasing as survival) 1:45 - The emotional roots of self-abandonment 4:30 - How self-abandonment shows up in daily life 7:10 - 4 common signals your body & behavior send (body signals, automatic yes, emotional shrink, after-feeling regret) 11:20 - Practical tool 1: The pause practice (5-second body check-in) 13:50 - Practical tool 2: Internal boundary honesty (stop the self-lies) 15:40 - Practical tool 3: Naming your needs (start small & internal) 17:30 - Applying this to relationships (prioritize you without damage) 19:00 - Final thoughts & why this matters for mental health This video is part 4 of the Self-Abandonment: Stop People Pleasing & Reclaim Yourself playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqyygol4OBT3UVI3Vn2xfP9v More videos you may like: Why they don't respect your boundaries: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZG__nXas-w How people pleasing is hurting you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKhFxnTlgtE My books: Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY Therapy: While I don't offer online therapy, get connected with a licensed therapist through my sponsor BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/kati (Get 10% OFF your first month) Partnerships: Contact Linnea Toney at linnea@underscoretalent.com Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship.