S05E03 | Can Africans & Boundaries Co-Exist? | Delve Deeper Into.. Boundaries

“Healthy boundaries are important, but you may be building a brick wall when a picket fence would do.” – Amy Dickinson Boundaries are all the rage in wellness speak. What exactly are they? What does it mean to ‘set boundaries’? Ummm, we’re African - how on earth do we set boundaries as black folks within a society that completely disregards personal space and autonomy? Personal boundaries can be defined as “the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.” | Therapist Aid, UHS Berkley We delve into all of this and then some. How we are personally trying to set boundaries and the struggle that comes with it. We also talk about healthy boundaries and how we can allow those we trust and who honour us within our personal space. Help us out and let us know some of the ways you practise healthy boundaries. What has been the hardest part? – Zim Shoutout: Yemu Phiri Author of “Mighty Women of Africa”, we celebrate Yemu Phiri for representing beautiful black women and inspiring other black women on what we too can do. Grab a copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Mighty-Women-Africa-Yemu-Phiri/dp/0648283453 Follow Yemu Phiri on IG: @yemuphiri https://www.instagram.com/yemuphiri/?hl=en We'd love to hear from you! Facebook: It's Layered Podcast (https://www.facebook.com/itslayeredpod/) Instagram: @itslayered (https://www.instagram.com/itslayered/?hl=en) Twitter: @itslayeredpod (https://twitter.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2Fitslayeredpod) TikTok: @itslayered (https://www.tiktok.com/@itslayered) Email: itslayeredpod@gmail.com —-------- 00:00 Intro & Welcome 03:06 Boundaries defined 07:05 First time setting boundaries 12:34 What influences boundaries? 16:19 Boundaries and expectations 20:03 Boundaries placed on us 28:48 Boundaries in romantic relationships and work 35:10 Reacting to breached boundaries 37:54 Family and boundaries 39:05 Rewriting our stories 44:06 How to set boundaries 52:12 Do boundaries change? 55:33 Zim Shoutout - Yemu Phiri