In this vlog I’m talking about what it really feels like to start over in New Zealand as a South African living abroad. People see the “soft life” clips, but the truth is starting again is emotionally and mentally demanding—new systems, new routines, new friendships, and that constant pressure of having to rebuild from scratch. I share the parts that are exciting and the parts that are honestly hard, especially when you’ve already done the expat thing before and you thought it would feel easier the second time around. I also chat about work/life balance and why that’s one of the biggest things I appreciate about New Zealand. I compare my experience here to my Japan era—what felt different, what I miss, and what I prefer now that I’m in a different season of life. If you’re thinking of moving, already here and struggling to settle, or you just need someone to say “you’re not crazy, it is a lot,” this video is for you. It’s a real talk reminder that adjustment takes time, and you can love a country while still grieving the life you left behind.