Everything I Wish I Knew About S*x When I Was In My 20s!

Intimacy expert Susan Bratton breaks down what actually leads to better s*x, deeper intimacy, and lasting connection - and why so many people are unknowingly settling for far less. Drawing on science-backed principles of desire, arousal, and communication, she explains where most couples go wrong and what truly drives attraction and satisfaction over time. Susan also shares her personal journey, including years without org*sms, how radical honesty saved her s*x life and why so many couples fall into “duty s*x” without realising it. Along the way, she challenges myths about s*x, aging, and performance, offering a more confident, connected approach rooted in learning, communication and curiosity. This is an eye-opening, provocative and educational conversation that will change how you think about s*x - and what’s possible in your relationships. Susan Bratton, We Need To Talk 00:00 Intro 02:32 What Does Susan Do? 04:32 Susan’s Definition of S*x 08:14 Susan Breaks Down the Yoni and Its Different Parts 10:34 Susan’s Definition of an Org*sm 13:52 How Often Should We Be Having Org*sms? 16:46 “Duty Sex” 18:13 How Susan and Her Partner Broke Out of a Bad Sex Rut 24:24 Susan’s Experience of Remote Sex and Her Sex Bucket List 28:03 Similarities Between the Penis and the Vagina 29:33 Susan’s Response to Scepticism Around Tech in the Bedroom 31:27 How Long Can Susan Orgasm For? 33:12 Solutions for Premature Ejaculation 35:02 Does Penis Size Matter? 40:58 Shopify Ad 42:10 Susan Shows Paul Other S*x Tools 47:44 How Many People Are Actually Having High-Quality Sex? 50:41 S*x Education Today 51:28 Using Play-Doh to Demonstrate Similarities in Erectile Tissue 57:15 Foreplay: What It Is and How Long It Should Last 01:03:02 The Mind’s Effect on Sexual Performance 01:05:53 Sharing “Frames” With a Sexual Partner 01:12:29 The Sexual Script and How to Overcome It 01:13:52 Susan Breaks Down Aphrodisiacs 01:19:01 Most Memorable Conversation 01:22:59 Paul’s Takeaways Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sign up to our newsletter https://linkly.link/2eXHX Support Susan here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Websites: https://susanbratton.com/ and https://drivedesire.com/ Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk