Why Are We So Attracted To Those Who Have Hurt Us The Most?-Adam Lane Smith

A second Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Adam Lane Smith, a relationship coach. Here's Adam's website with all of his social media links: https://adamlanesmith.com For ad-free, uncensored videos and plenty of exclusive content please subscribe to the Soft White Underbelly subscription channel at softwhiteunderbelly.com. It's $10 a month and watchable on Apple and Android mobile apps, Roku TV, Apple TV and Amazon Fire. 0:00 – Attachment Styles & Struggling with Love 5:34 – Why We’re Attracted To People Who Hurt Us 9:06 – Intensity & Toxic Relationship Patterns 12:38 – The Most Destructive Relationships 15:44 – What is a Healthy Relationship? 17:27 – Dating Apps & Modern Love 22:30 – Masculinity / Femininity 25:05 – Recreating Childhood Patterns 27:10 – Insecurity & Self-Worth 30:17 – Can People Truly Change Their Patterns? 34:52 – Choosing The Wrong Partner 40:11 – Building Healthy Love, Community & Connection 44:24 – Infidelity & Relationship Repair 50:18 – What Secure People Do Differently 54:14 – Rewiring Your Brain 58:35 – The Future Of Love Here's how to purchase the Soft White Underbelly books and merch: https://softwhiteunderbelly.org #swu #softwhiteunderbelly #documentary #marklaita #attachement #attraction #love #relationships #humanconnection