Episode 416 – Growing As a Family with Board Games

We’re going to talk about what it’s like to grow up in a gaming family! 0:00:00 Fact for 416 The largest chocolate bar by area measured 416.34 square meters, achieved on 2 December 2024. Sponsor Message What do you do with your tax refund? Do you get a refund at all? If you want to talk to First Move about habits you can build to take the next step toward your goals, go to firstmovefinancial.com/familygamers (https://firstmovefinancial.com/familygamers) to schedule a call. 0:04:05 What We’ve Been Playing Floristry (our review (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/floristry/) ) – looking forward to trying the update! Flip 7 (our review (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/flip-7/) ) Trio (our review (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/trio/) ) Iliad Fight 5 Animal Rescue Team Dice Throne: Marvel X-men – review coming soon 0:25:00 The Family Gamers Community Welcome to our newest members! (https://www.facebook.com/groups/familygamersaa/posts/4301541343468656/) You can join the community on Facebook. 0:25:30 #Backtalk We asked about more topics… and your silliest #boardgamevalentine (see our TFG valentines (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/valentines/) ). You responded on the #backtalk channel (https://discord.com/channels/1157003438425653379/1239323617368604672) of the Discord. 0:29:00 Growing as a Family with Board Games We started The Family Gamers Podcast (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/podcast/) when we had three kids, age 7 and under. Back then, we were really just playing with the oldest and trying to find ways to include the preschooler. We started playing very simple games with our oldest when she was probably 3 years old. We did play some CandyLand (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/why-i-hate-candy-land/) , but we mostly played simple “family” games rather than kids’ games. We were often trying to rule-shift or play games that were very simple (like Zombie Dice, which we mention back in episode 1 (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/01-a-new-challenger-approaches-introductions/) !), in part because our oldest started reading at a very young age. So we didn’t need games that avoided reading. She also really enjoyed the adult attention she got from doing “adult” things. And then our middle child got old enough to want to join in the games. Unfortunately, we discovered many “family games” don’t work well with multiple children when at least one can’t read yet. That is when we first realized that when gaming with very young children (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/tag/young-children/) , games need to be short (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/top-games-3-years/) , with very simple decisions, no reading, and limited symbols & counting. We were barely aware of HABA games and other games geared towards very young children, but we learned! (Episode 36 (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/episode-36-learning-games/) ) Teaming Up: Playing with Multiple Children We also would “team up” a parent with a kid. The job of the parent was to present and explain the available decisions, without forcing the kid into any specific option. We recommend using house rules or variants, as long as everyone agrees how to play! It’s OK if small children just want to use the game pieces to play “let’s pretend”. If that bothers other children playing (or you as the parent), you need to clarify this with the kid – it’s not right or wrong, just have a plan for how to handle it. Maybe it means finishing this game and coming back later to play with the kid-generated rules. “You want to say ‘yes’ as much as possible.” – Andrew As the kids got a little older, we noticed that our younger children were trying to emulate their older sibling(s). (This is still an issue with teenagers, by the way.) This made it even more important to emphasize being a gracious winner and avoid being a sore loser (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/4-ways-sore-loser/) . But it also means that you have to find ways to include the younger sibling(s) even as the older children want to graduate away from “kids games” (https://www.thefamilygamers.com/top-games-kids-under-10/) . We looked for ways to handicap games, but also looked for games that would play to our younger children’s strengths, so they would not ALWAYS lose. It’s Different Now In 2026, we would recommend BoardGamesForAllAges.com (https://boardgamesforallages.com/b-mods/) . Tom has created “B-mods” which are handicapping rules to allow players of different levels to really be able to play TOGETHER. The structure encourages kids to keep leveling up, with fewer and fewer handicaps. We are also now in a phase of life where board gaming as a family looks very different: our kids are all in middle & high school now. And their interactions with games are different. It’s no longer about leveling the playing field, it’s about honoring the ways that each of them want to interact w...