Insecurities, Judgement, Behaviour and Self-Care | Alex Østergaard | Beyond Coding Podcast #103

Insecurities, everyone has them, but not everyone deals with them the same. And interestingly enough, behaviour and insecurities can originate from experiences you’ve had as a child. This is one of the many takeaways I had from chatting with Alex Østergaard on this episode.  With an interest in coaching myself, it was a real pleasure to learn from his perspective and how he does things. Active listening, zero judgement and self-compassion being a few ingredients to his success.  Enjoy! 🎙 Connect with Alex Østergaard:  ⁠https://linkedin.com/in/alex-life-coach⁠ OUTLINE: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:38 - Patrick's managers 00:01:42 - Resources to help with coaching 00:03:27 - How to build up trust 00:04:40 - No Judgement 00:06:03 - Criticism and drive 00:06:48 - Self-compassion 00:09:04 - Feeling of being not good enough 00:12:55 - Self-care 00:15:36 - Getting out of a slope 00:18:09 - Control how you feel 00:20:55 - Alex's LinkedIn profile is amazing 00:21:48 - Big Tech Tunnel Vision 00:24:18 - Toxic relationship with your company 00:25:50 - Weight of gold 00:26:47 - Fulfilment vs. compensation 00:28:52 - Self doubt and trusting yourself 00:32:38 - Patrick's past insecurities joining Xebia 00:35:38 - None of us know what we're doing 00:36:24 - What people think of you 00:38:26 - Fear of judgement 00:39:19 - Judgement from the podcast 00:40:30 - Asking for help 00:41:41 - 5 types of imposter syndrome 00:43:28 - Pride 00:45:37 - Behaviour explained through the past 00:47:30 - No one is to blame 00:49:00 - It's not right or wrong #Software #Technology #Podcast - Connect with Patrick Akil: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-akil https://twitter.com/PatrickAkil_ Feedback is always welcome :) Beyond Coding is a weekly podcast with conversations that go "beyond coding" in a fireside chat format. Common topics are: software engineering, leadership, communication, self-improvement and happiness. Patrick Akil and his guests share their journeys and perspectives for you to take with you and form your own. Authentic, informative and inspiring. That's what every episode aims to be. Shoutout to Xebia for making these episodes possible 💜: https://www.xebia.com Beyond Coding on your favourite podcast platforms 🎙: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7asIKIPU3N6n0SNWHxwMnQ Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coding/id1572440477 Google Podcasts - https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy81YmI1N2VhYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw== Audible - https://www.audible.com/pd/Podcast/B08K56MZBQ Anchor- https://anchor.fm/beyond-coding Castbox - https://castbox.fm/channel/id4169675 Breaker - https://www.breaker.audio/beyond-coding Pocket Casts - https://pca.st/gljc9jhh Radio Public - https://radiopublic.com/beyond-coding-G3YVLg Equipment we use 💕 Rodecaster Pro - https://www.amazon.com/-/en/dp/B07M5LQ1YZ/ref=sr_1_1 Rode Procaster - https://www.amazon.com/Rode-Procaster-Broadcast-Dynamic-Microphone/dp/B001IPUJJI/ Beyerdynamic DT770 Pro - https://www.amazon.com/Beyerdynamic-Professional-Headphones-Limited-Renewed/dp/B07KWY57MR/